When you come to the right place of balance--when your inner masculine and feminine are equally aligned--you will eventually meet an outer reflection of that balance in the form of a physical Twin Soul partner. Until then, though, how do you know you're getting close? How do you know that the inner work you're doing through meditation, active imagination, journaling, or other forms of expression, is working?

Well...your dreams, for one, are great indicators. Pay attention to your dreams. Nighttime dreams that represent union mean you are at balance. Dreams symbolizing rejection or separation denote that there is still some work to do.

Your behavior also has a lot to tell you. Pay attention to how you feel. If you're more comfortable with yourself when interacting with others, especially people whose energy type had you feeling less than whole in the past, you are on your way. If you're feeling equal to all--neither inferior nor superior--you are there. At this point, you will feel less argumentative. You won't be needing to prove yourself, and you will find yourself talking comfortably and listening to others with presence. Of course, this doesn't mean you won't be tested. It doesn't mean that your buttons will never be pushed again or that another player won't come your way... It means that when your buttons are pushed, you'll respond peacefully or not all. It means that the player won't charm you for long. You'll recognize the inauthenticity in him or her quickly, and you will have no illusions about healing them or turning them around.  

This also doesn't mean you will always remain at this balance. No one, including the saints, is perfect. Staying at this place requires maintenance--which means self-awareness and regular care.

Blessings and love,


Mary Dunlop's latest book, 'Betsey's Retreat: The Power of Twin Soul Love Book II,' is available at…/…/1537794906/ and all Amazon online stores.

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